Flashbackkkk

2010 is about to arrive...jus 24 hrs remaining till d clock ticks 12 00 n we leave behind 2009 and get goin into a new n hopefully a prosperous year...

As a rotinue (year ending hysteria) i started thinking all d past events...n as customary all d disastrous things came in my memory.(i wonder as to why our temporal lobe is an expert to store n revive all the grief striken things at a faster rate than the days of glory).

Quite obviously as everyone else, i had my share of best and worst days as always as every other year...no life turning events...can say quite similar to the prev year or the year before..

yet a feeling, an urge to say that ALL'S NOT WELL...

Mayb this feeling is a hope that our coming year should be and will be better than the previous year...

On a positive note, as an attempt to leave the year happily i would love to mention the good n glorious days..

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  First n foremost....Im back home:)    
  
  
  HAppy to be back home with my parents, glad to have escaped the horrid half lunches and skipped dinners in hostel, relieved to leave all the chores to mom:)
  

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   My hardwork paid off...
  
  
  I can proudly say that my graduation days weren't a waste..have something to boast about it. All the days of hardwork did pay off n got a beautiful result and as a feather on cap got the best student award:)...happy to stand out of so many people..
  

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  Mental peace and physical rest
  
  
  Yup!!!mental peace..all of which was wavering the previous year...finally got it stabilised in 2009.The reason mayb coz im home n partly mayb coz im away from things which took away smile 4m my face.Physical rest is coz most of time this year ive been in my home not wandering anywhere, no more college, no work, loads of idle time to pursue other things n more time for family...
  

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  Coming face-2face with the real corporate world.
  
  
  Life in college is actually a training session for us.Though it teaches us the ways n rules of real world, but the  experience comes when u actually leave the college n step out into the rat race. This is when u truly understand the meaning of "SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST". All the theoritical knowledge u gained in college has to be put in a practical basis, n thats the real challenge.
  
  

As soon as i came out of the college, it was fun in the beginning but later on i understood the seriousness of the decision which i should take at this moment to turn out my life beautifully professionally n personally.

So all in all this year made me think seriously about my life and my future.

Professionally speaking this year mayb considered as a backlog in my life coz except for a few months practising as a dentist in a clinic there hasnt been much i made out of this year...but personally i learnt a lot of the ways of life..

Hmmmm...when ive actually spoken of the good things, i really feel much better now!!!

Considering all these i must say it wasn't a bad year after all:)

I can finally say

"AAL IZZ WELL"

Happy to be ending this post and bidding adieu to 2009 with a smiling face...

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Youngest in Family :(

When i mention the word "youngest" in the family,i know there might be many of u who may think that it is best to be so...a lucky way to be rescued of all the responsibilities, having the privilege of being loved by one n all, being pampered upon by parents, havin lots of heads to guide you to the path of success, n so on...huh!!!!!

Frankly none is totally wrong...there is li'l bit of truth in those who say its lucky to be youngest considering the above said...

But trust me...being the youngest has its share of advantages but the disadvantages outweigh all the above mentioned things...

First n foremost...there is li'l scope of being independent...though u are given the freedom of takin ur own decisions...but more often its taken away from u even without your knowledge...

The decision taken by u is finally the outcome of lotta cogitation by ur family members(not solely ur's) and u just go with the flow....and before you even realise that, u are head down under with that decision and finally have to accept it...

U have no other go....

have to abide by what they say...

Having said that, i must mention it is good to have someone to back u always...but most of the times it becomes a habit and finally when u have no one to guide u....u falter n vacillate even at the minor decisions....

People feel that the youngest kids in family are the most outrageous, brave, and sorta insensitive...

but lemme tell u...all these feelings are the result of attention seeking....yup!! very much true...though the most loved in the family, they always have to go through the check-o-meter.....comparison with siblings...

They strive to be best to fit in the spotlight...

n mayb thats the reason why they are very fun loving, mischeivous, loquacious, gettin indulged in things, affectionate(loads of hugs n kisses to give out)....sole reason being to gain attention of their parents...

(either work hard to be center of attention or break the rules)

mayb a very good outcome of this attention seeking is that they always excel in everything they do...

The worst part of being youngest is they are not only guided by the parents but also by siblings(they behave as though they r the pathfinders)...

which is the most annoying part...

U r supposed to respect ur siblings,

join the school which they joined,

follow their footsteps coz they have already passed ur age n know where to go n where not to,

 get all second hand goods n yet feel happy to be getting them,

always speak after them...

(coz parents always listen to 1st  kids 1st)....

n finally even after u do all this....a day comes when ur parents say..."dont be a menace"...learn from ur sibling...they know everything n u r still a kid...

STILL A KID??????

being 20 something is still being a kid???

????

Is it good or bad???

Happily ever after..

".....................and they lived happily ever after"...
Awww!!!! such a beautiful way to end all the stories....n frankly jus to read these last two lines i long to read the whole fairy tales...

I donno bout the guys out thr..but can for sure say tht 90% of the girls will at some point of thr life sit down on their porch n dream bout her prince charming,true love's kiss....n thn the...Happily ever after quote....:)

The fantasy of Prince charming....The Proposal....The dream wedding....The dream house....

n

finally

living

 happily ever after with ur prince charming..

It's a dream come true,,,,,if a girl actually encounters all these things,,,right!!!!

Dont worry girls..."Dreams do come true"...so dont ever get disappointed whnever someone says tht all these things happen only in fairy tales....

Dream high n believe in ur dreams tht thy will come true one day...

(touch wood)

trust me!!!

Thy will come true!!!

 (keep ur fingers crossed)...

DECIDOPHOBIA

Well....thr r a few sayings which i keep repeating to myself whenever im low or having decidophobia...
n today is one of those greatest days of my Indecisiveness....
jus hoping tht these sayings boost up me and all those who r feeling low today...:):)

"Destiny is not a matter of chance,its a matter of choice."

"The boldest decisions are the safest."

"Somewhere along the line of development we discover what we really are, and then we make our real decision for which we are responsible. Make that decision primarily for yourself because you can never really live anyone else's life."

                                  -- Eleanor Roosevelt

"Decide like a man of action, implement like a man of thought."

"Every problem, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity."

"Thinking without action is a daydream. Action without thinking is a nightmare."

"Things, which matter most, must never be at the mercy of things which matter least."

"good decision is never an accident."so always decide with your mind and not with your hope.

I was actually surfing google about the root cause of indecisiveness n luckily found a site which said...
OVERCOMING INDECISIVENESS...n i was promptly interested in tht...n this is wht i found in tht ;5steps to overcome ur indecisiveness...

1. Listen to your gut. Usually your instincts are right on. However, if you have been shushing your gut feelings over a long period of time, you might have forgotten how to know what they are saying to you. Breathe deeply, close your eyes and try to hear that inner voice.
2. Consider the worst case scenario of that gut feeling. Once you have thought about the most terrible thing that could happen if you make your instinctive choice, you might realize that it wouldn't be that bad. You can also come up with ways to deal with that possible outcome.
3. Leave it alone for a while. If the decision does not need to be made immediately, give yourself a time limit to mull it over. Sleep on it or walk away for a half-hour.
4. Imagine living with the decision. That might be as simple as eating a butter brickle sundae or as life altering as being married to the person you are dating. Sit in the feelings that come along with that imagery. Do you feel content or disappointed, stressed out or at peace?
5. Flip a coin. Call heads for one choice, tails for the other. When the coin lands and you see the outcome, check your emotions. Do you feel relieved or let down? Use this as a tool in coming to your final decision.

  These are i suppose the most silly but the most common things we do at some or the other point in our life to decide upon something...n believe me whn things r not life decisive, these 5 steps actually work without much thought...i splly love the flip a coin segment..n it actually works with me in silly encounters of daily indecisiveness...But whn things are serious n mayb life turning, thn in my opinion, only one thing works:"Being true to yourself".....


Honesty is to be the one you are.It is important to identify your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Being honest with yourself is the most important thing you can ever do. When it comes to yourself, you have to be brutally honest. To be honest, you must fully accept that at this moment, you can only be what you are. No more, no less; however, with the inevitable passing of each moment of time, you will gradually, but surely change -- to become more or less, better or worse, stronger or weaker. Your choice is the direction of change. The only true competition is the rivalry within your changing self.

Everything starts with yourself -- with you making up your mind about what you're going to do with your life.


Finally, in decision-making there is no one better to talk to than yourself if you really want to get things worked out. No other person has as much information about your problems, and no one knows your skills and capabilities better.
LIVE LIFE WITH NO REGRETS!!!!!the best way to lead a life in tht maner is to take a full responsibility of your decisions,your life.

n finally whn you have decided upon something....a way to success n happiness is...


"Make a choice - any choice. If it is the wrong one, learn from it. And if it’s right, then congratulations!!!"

Happy B'day

Happy Birthday to u....
                 Happy birthday to u.....
                                Happy Birthday Dear Jyo...
Happy birthday to u....




Missing u a lot on ur bday...may god bless u n b happy forever n ever...

Kitchen Queen

I jus love the title...

N yes im in the process of gettin tht title.....started with a chocolate cake...n it came out super delicious..

WAs so excited tht took few pics of my 1st cake...

It is much more yummier thn it looks...:)

Twilight Watch

"TWILIGHT WATCH"

No...its not about d fantasy novel n neither bout d movie....

I was wandering on my terrace whn i suddenly eyed the sky n couldnt stop myself from capturing d beautiful scenery at dusk...

SWEET SORROW

Juliet:

Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow,

That I shall say good night till it be morrow.

(Romeo And Juliet Act 2, scene 2, 176–185)

 

This famous phrase explains how Juliet expresses parting from Romeo just for the night as "such sweet sorrow"...

Her phrase is an oxymoron, combining contradictory ideas of pleasure and pain.

 

The same way when a relationship ends,

one person tends to shed it off faster,

while the other wades through the pain and grief of parting....

mayb thats y

PARTING

can be

SWEET SORROW...

The way the partners respond totally depends on their personality and state of dependence on each other....It can also be impacted by the manner in which the parting happened.

If the 2 partners decide to part to move on to a more positive stuff(if the break is for the right reason),the parting is likely to be amicable.However if one partner walks out of the relation on his own terms n doesnt justify his reasons for parting,then the subsequent interaction is bound to be acrimonious.

In order to have a tranquil after,its prime to weed out the negativity along with the relationship.

You cannot predict as to how the relationship ends,but u can certainly let go of it with dignity..

If handled carefully from each others aspect,parting though painful,can at least cease to be a lifelong trauma.

And perhaps,when u look back in the autumn of life.it can Jus b a sweet sorrow.....